Dr. Laurie Santos on Science of Happiness | Huberman Lab
The Two Types of Happiness
Social scientists distinguish between being happy "in your life" versus "with your life." The first involves experiencing positive emotions and feelings in the moment, while the second is about cognitive satisfaction with how your life is going overall. Ideally, we want both - but research shows that true happiness comes more from those in-the-moment experiences than external achievements.
The Social Connection Imperative
One of the most powerful behavioral changes you can make to boost happiness is increasing social connection. Studies show that time spent with friends, family, and even strangers consistently predicts greater wellbeing. But here's the challenge - we often don't feel motivated to seek out these interactions, even though research confirms they make us happier.
The Technology Trap
Modern technology offers "nutrisweet" versions of social connection through texting and social media. While these give us quick hits of interaction, they don't provide the deep nourishment of real-time, face-to-face connection. This helps explain rising loneliness rates, especially among young people who've grown up with these technologies.
Finding Real Connection
The key is creating opportunities for genuine social interaction, even when our minds don't crave it. This could mean scheduling regular coffee dates, making phone calls instead of texting, or finding ways to tend to life's requirements together. While these take more effort than scrolling social media, they provide lasting happiness that artificial connection never can.